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When the past tries to re-open the door
On choosing the lesson, and finally experiencing my own “no” as genuinely loving, 04.08.24
I understand that Facebook is often a strange place, and I get that it has been responsible for some pretty shady things.
But like most tools — money, religion, politics — I tend to see it primarily as a revealer, not a causer.
That is: it is incredible for showing us who we are, individually and collectively, in any given moment. If so many of us weren’t unmoored from ourselves, the disinformation or division or manufactured outrage would not really be able to hook us. We wouldn’t get infatuated with would-be demagogues. There would be no appeal. Our spirits would recognize it as faux comfort and just take a pass.
So things that reveal us can also be genuinely useful tools. They can entrench our immaturity, or shepherd us to greater awareness, depending on how we choose to use them.
If we come to Facebook and we’re at peace, we’re going to create calm and attract calm. If we come to Facebook and we’re a mess, we’re going to present as a mess, and we’re going to cause messes.
Whatever is unresolved is amplified, so that we might see it and hopefully take care of it — at least that’s always the invitation. Whatever is healed is amplified, too.
